Wednesday, March 25, 2015

The Price of Being "Good"

Sometimes it's easy to recognize those who are 'in need.' We have physical needs, financial needs, and along with those come a variety of emotional needs. However, one of the dangers our church (and society in general) faces in the assumption that some people are above being 'in need.'

I was a pretty good kid growing up. I didn't get into a lot of trouble and I was one those kids other parents could trust. I really struggled with this in my teen years - especially within my youth group at church. I was 'low maintenance' and my pastors didn't have to put in any work to try and 'fix' me. Thus, I watched as the 'troubled' kids (those with behavioral problems, divorced parents, etc...) received all the attention.

When I did go through my rebellious phase, suddenly my pastor and youth leaders wanted to 'help.' Naturally, I took on the attitude of "You didn't care about me before, why should I listen to you now."

As adults, we can catch ourselves doing the same thing. We believe people are 'well off,' 'have it all together,' and assume they just don't need us. Therefore, we sacrifice a relationship with them; not because we don't like them, but because we don't feel as if they 'need' us.

Paul talks in Philippians 4:12 about knowing the secrets to facing both abundance and need. Most of the time, I think we are focused on helping others face the 'need.' But what about facing abundance? What are some of the struggles Paul was talking about in facing abundance? Why would a life of abundance be hard?

When people are struggling physically and financially, I think their emotional struggles are easy to pick up on; but when we don't see others struggling physically, I think we assume they must be doing good emotionally. Then, we are surprised when they all of a sudden have a breakdown, leave the church, or just quit life.

I think the price we pay for being 'good' is more of an emotional struggle because we are less 'sought after.' Everybody needs a person. A person who checks in, lives life with them, and knows their struggles - externally and internally. This is hard. We don't like feeling vulnerable and open to people most of the time. Everyone wants to be sought after, but not everyone is willing to seek others out.

This is why it's important to pray for leaders, pastors, and those who are 'well-off' because they might not be so well off as we think. Yes, helping others whose needs are known is something we are called to do. But don't assume that anybody is not 'in need.' We are all in need. If we weren't, we wouldn't need Jesus to save us.

So, the price we pay for being 'good,' can be loneliness, feelings of being over-looked - you know people care, but it's hard to remember. So, remind someone that you care for them - even if they are 'okay.'

Sunday, March 15, 2015

The Bible: Excerpt from my book

Why is it so hard to get excited about reading our Bibles? No Christian wants to admit it, but I hear very few people talk of being so thrilled about reading their bible that they just can’t put it down, or they can’t wait until their next opportunity. I struggle with this. My struggles usually stem from a lack of understanding the content. 

Take, for example, the book of Leviticus. I use to never be ecstatic to read about the laws of the Levitical priests until I did an in-depth study that explained the significance of the regulations. I learned about each article of clothing the priests wore as well as what each item represented and why it was essential to their faith. It was a study on the Tabernacle, which also paralleled references from the New Testament. This gave me an understanding of the latter books of the Pentateuch and I now can relate books such as Leviticus, Exodus, and Deuteronomy to my present day life.

Another reason why people don’t read their Bibles is time; or rather the lack thereof. We desire to change but it’s hard to find the time, especially since our lives are already so routine. Where can we fit in another thing? No matter what your desires are for your life, if you want to make sustainable changes, it starts with knowing God and we know God through His Word. We can’t make time for God. We make time for life. 

Francis Chan, former pastor of Cornerstone Community Church in Simi Valley, California, has a wonderful sermon entitled “Lukewarm and Loving It,” that talks about this very issue. You can view the sermon on YouTube. I would highly recommend it. It has greatly impacted the lives of me, my husband, and numerous others.

Other than the lack of time or understanding, why else would Christians not want to read their bible? I researched this question by visiting a forum online and pulling some of what I thought were the best, meaning most humorous or most factual, answers people gave. Below is the list. [1]
1)      Because they are waiting for it to come out in a movie, like Harry Potter and with the special effects.
2)      The Bible is a big book which intimidates people.
3)      Basically, we’re procrastinating.
4)      We could choose to get closer to God, but that would mean we have to let go of things that we know are wrong but we don’t want to get rid of.
5)      Most of us would have to cut our vocabulary in half. The rest of us would have to take responsibility for things that we don’t want to take responsibility for. And all of us would have to stop doing things that are socially acceptable and start doing things that many would consider a little extreme and definitely not politically correct.
6)      In simplest terms, we make excuses.

Let’s discuss some of these answers. I found number one to be the funniest, but it also presents a terrifying truth of just how television and Hollywood play a major role in most of our lives. A lot people would choose to watch a movie rather than to read a book – even if that book contains the most important information on how to live exceptional lives. TV has become an idol is most of our homes and we wonder why our kids are so obsessed with the big screen and can’t sit still during church.

Number two. Yes, the bible is a big book and I too was intimidated by the thought of reading the whole thing. My husband helped me overcome this when we did a Bible reading schedule together as a couple. He was there to motivate me and also keep me accountable. I am the type of person who likes to plan and have a schedule. I usually keep my Bible reading schedule on the wall above my bed. That way, I know exactly what I need to read every day to accomplish reading my Bible all the way through whether it’s in one year, five years, or five months. I set a goal, I make a plan, and I stick it with it the best that life allows.

I use to be terrified of turning the Bible into another item to check off my list during the day and even though some days that is how I feel, by doing it, I am walking in obedience. God is so gracious and patient with me and on the days when I’m not particularly excited to read what’s on my daily ‘Bible reading plan,’ and I find that those are the days God shows me more revelations and truly meets me while I’m in the Word.

So yes, while the Bible can be intimidating, find a plan that works for you. The best one is the one you can follow on a time frame that works best for you. It helps to have an established routine. Make it a habit. Whatever you choose, choose to be in the Word daily.

Number three I also thought was humorous. It is a stereotype that the older people become; the more they read their Bibles. This is because of the notion that the closer we see ourselves getting to ‘the end,’ the more assurance we want of what is going to happen to us. I, however, would offer the theory that the more we are in the Word, the greater that desire becomes. If we read our Bibles consistently, it becomes something we crave. I can only hope that my knowledge and love for the scripture will increase with every passing year.

Number four. God will impact your life. He will require some things to change and it may be hard to give up some of those things. But God also changes people in different ways. Sometimes God will impact your life so much that you want to change everything all at once to walk according to his word in every aspect of life. But it’s not the only way. God knows your personality and knows if you need the cold hard truth that will strip you clean and leave you totally exposed - this being for your own good because that is what you need. (Compare this to the story of Saul becoming Paul). 
Or, He knows if you need a gentle nudge to allow you to ‘clean house’ slowly as you turn your life around and start living for Him. When you start doing things right, God will change your heart. This means that all those things you are holding onto that you just can’t bear to let go, God will make those the things seem insignificant to the point where you realize not only that you do not need them, but that you do not want them.

Number five really does not need any attention. I think it sums it up dead on and though it might be a harsh truth to accept, if we want to impact His kingdom, for His glory, then we have to do things His way. Working out, eating right, and taking care of our bodies is only useful if we are doing it to further his Kingdom. That is why we bother to take care of ourselves – spiritually and physically. We are His living temple and if we are engaging in activities that make us lazy, gluttonous, or feel inferior, then we can’t be useful branches and God will prune us. 

Number six. Yes, we make excuses. Sometimes, we even make really good ones. We might not read our Bibles so we can spend more time in prayer or with our families. However, without being obedient to God by being in His Word, our lives will not be fully effective because Jesus himself stated in Mathew 4:4 (referring to Moses’ words in Deuteronomy 8:3), “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord.” We cannot have life to the fullest if we are not heeding God’s words which are written down for us in the Bible.


Wednesday, March 4, 2015

Focus

WOW! I can't believe it's already March...where did February go? Not to mention that I've seen more snow in the past couple weeks than I have all winter long...ugh!!!

Anyway, February was a rough month around here. There were lots of things, including sickness, deaths in the family, and other various instances that kept pulling my focus away from my writing, my homeschooling, and my fitness.

We went roller skating as a family last Sunday and I learned a valuable lesson from my son. He was struggling to keep his balance and then he made a self discovery. He said, "You know what I learned mom? I fall when I lose my focus. When I keep focusing on standing straight, I don't fall."

I thought this was very insightful (especially for an 8 year old). So this month is about regaining focus on what's important and what I want to accomplish this year. There are some very exciting things coming up this month and I am looking forward to what's coming!

So, here's to keeping my chin up and staying focused while being excited about future changes that are coming!

Lamentations 3:19-26 (ESV)

19 Remember my affliction and my wanderings,
    the wormwood and the gall!
20 My soul continually remembers it
    and is bowed down within me.
21 But this I call to mind,
    and therefore I have hope:
22 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
    his mercies never come to an end;
23 they are new every morning;
    great is your faithfulness.
24 “The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
    “therefore I will hope in him.”
25 The Lord is good to those who wait for him,
    to the soul who seeks him.
26 It is good that one should wait quietly
    for the salvation of the Lord.